• /* ----------------------------------------------- Blogger Template Style Name: Dots Dark Designer: Douglas Bowman URL: www.stopdesign.com Date: 27 Feb 2004 ----------------------------------------------- */ body { background:#123 url("http://www.blogblog.com/dots_dark/bg_minidots.gif") 50% 0; margin:0; padding:0 0px; text-align:left; font:x-small Verdana,Arial,Sans-serif; color:#abc; font-size/* */:/**/small; font-size: /**/small; } /* Page Structure ----------------------------------------------- */ #content { background:url("http://www.blogblog.com/dots_dark/bg_3dots.gif") no-repeat 250px 50px; width:700px; margin:0 auto; padding:50px 0; text-align:left; } #main { width:450px; float:left; padding:20px 0 0; font-size:85%; } #main2 { background:url("http://www.blogblog.com/dots_dark/bg_minidots2.gif") -100px -100px; padding:20px 10px 15px; } #sidebar { width:200px; float:left; font-size:85%; padding-bottom:20px; } #sidebar2 { background:url("http://www.blogblog.com/dots_dark/bg_minidots2.gif") 150px -50px; padding:5px 10px 15px; width:200px; width/* */:/**/180px; width: /**/180px; } /* Title & Description ----------------------------------------------- */ #blog-title { margin:0 0 .5em; font:bold 250%/1.4em Helvetica,Arial,Sans-serif; color:#8dd; text-transform:lowercase; } #blog-title a { color:#8cc; text-decoration:none; } #description { margin:0 0 1.75em; color:#9c7; } /* Links ----------------------------------------------- */ a:link { color:#da7; } a:visited { color:#799; } a:hover { color:#fff; } a img { border-width:0; } /* Posts ----------------------------------------------- */ .date-header { margin:0 0 .75em; padding-bottom:.75em; border-bottom:5px dotted #567; font:bold 100%/1.4em Verdana,San-serif; text-transform:lowercase; color:#7bc; } .post { margin:0 0 .5em; line-height:1.6em; } .post-title { margin:.25em 0; font:bold 130%/1.4em Verdana,San-serif; color:#ad8; } .post-title a, .post-title strong { background:url("http://www.blogblog.com/dots_dark/bg_post_title.gif") no-repeat 0 .25em; display:block; color:#ad8; text-decoration:none; padding:0 0 1px 20px; } .post-title a:hover { color:#fff; } .post p { margin:0 0 .75em; } p.post-footer { margin:10; text-align:right; } p.post-footer em { display:block; float:left; text-align:left; font-style:normal; color:#9c7; } a.comment-link { /* IE5.0/Win doesn't apply padding to inline elements, so we hide these two declarations from it */ background/* */:/**/url("http://www.blogblog.com/dots_dark/icon_comment.gif") no-repeat 0 .25em; padding-left:15px; } html>body a.comment-link { /* Respecified, for IE5/Mac's benefit */ background:url("http://www.blogblog.com/dots_dark/icon_comment.gif") no-repeat 0 .25em; padding-left:15px; } .post img { margin:0 0 10px 0; padding:10px; border:1px solid #567; } /* Comments ----------------------------------------------- */ #comments { margin:0; } #comments h4 { margin:0 0 10px; border-top:1px dotted #567; padding-top:.5em; font:bold 110%/1.4em Verdana,Sans-serif; color:#9c7; } #comments-block { line-height:1.6em; } .comment-poster { background:url("http://www.blogblog.com/dots_dark/icon_comment.gif") no-repeat 2px .35em; margin:.5em 0 0; padding:0 0 0 20px; font-weight:bold; color:#9ab; } .comment-body { margin:0; padding:0 0 0 20px; } .comment-body p { margin:0 0 .5em; } .comment-timestamp { margin:0 0 .5em; padding:0 0 .75em 20px; color:#996; } .comment-timestamp a:link { color:#996; } .deleted-comment { font-style:italic; color:gray; } /* More Sidebar Content ----------------------------------------------- */ .sidebar-title { margin:2em 0 .75em; padding-bottom:.35em; border-bottom:1px dotted #567; font:bold 100%/1.4em Verdana,San-serif; text-transform:lowercase; color:#7bc; } #sidebar p { margin:0 0 .75em; line-height:1.6em; } #sidebar ul { margin:.5em 0 1em; padding:0 0px; list-style:none; line-height:1.5em; } #sidebar ul li { background:url("http://www.blogblog.com/dots_dark/bullet.gif") no-repeat 3px .45em; margin:0; padding:0 0 5px 15px; } #sidebar p { margin:0 0 .6em; } /* Profile ----------------------------------------------- */ .profile-datablock { margin:0 0 1em; } .profile-img { display:inline; } .profile-img img { float:left; margin:0 8px 5px 0; border:4px solid #345; } .profile-data { margin:0; line-height:1.5em; } .profile-data strong { display:block; } .profile-textblock { clear:left; } /* Footer ----------------------------------------------- */ #footer { clear:both; padding:15px 0 0; } #footer hr { display:none; } #footer p { margin:0; }

    Wednesday, March 01, 2006

    Lysistrata

    A favorite blog of mine has a post recommending this response to the "War on Women" (new language for "anti-choice activity"):

    Every wife and mistress is to refuse all sexual favours whatsoever, till the men have come to terms of peace. In cases where the women must yield 'par force majeure,' then it is to be with an ill grace and in such a way as to afford the minimum of gratification to their partner; they are to be passive and take no more part in the amorous game than they are absolutely obliged to. By these means Lysistrata assures them they will very soon gain their end. ‘If we sit indoors prettily dressed out in our best transparent silks and prettiest gewgaws, and all nicely depilated, they will be able to deny us nothing.’

    The comments to this thread bat back and forth the question "What is the basic weakness of this argument?" and they seem to think that 1. some women need/want men for $ and 2. some women are themselves anti-choice and would therefore not wish to participate and would get all the hetero play.

    But here's my major problem with invocations of Lysistrata by feminists: the idea is sex-negative (spooky term, perhaps) and rooted in essentialist notions of both men and women.

    Let's not forget that there are, at least allegedly ;), women out there who are strictly attracted to men and wish to have a partnered sexual practice. For those of us for whom that is not the case, we could go around having sex with each other and with ourselves and be happy and be making little or no sacrifice (in fact, for some of us, it would just widen the pool of potential willing partners).

    And let's not pretend for a second that the issue of "choice" belongs to hetero feminists because, while it may be women who sleep with men who use abortion and contraception services more frequently, any woman with reproductive capacity could end up in a situation to need these services and should have access.

    But the thing that most troubles me is the idea that men would crack first and end up giving women whatever we wanted, if sex was withheld long enough. It's that same, "he thinks with his dick," "every seven seconds" stereotype of men that I think should be vigorously eradicated. Part and parcel is the idea that women who have sex with men do so because they want something else, other than the sex itself, from these men.

    Finally, it lumps men who escort at abortion clinics, distribute the morning-after pill, and tithe 10% to Planned Parenthood or NARAL with guys who refuse to fill prescriptions for EC even when it's their damned job, write legislation banning necessary abortion procedures, and won't even put on a condom.

    I think that pro-choice people of every gender and sexual orientation should practice our own form of personal Lysistrata: you don't get to have sex with me if you aren't for the rights of women over their bodies!

    2 Comments:

    Blogger Omnipotent Poobah said...

    El, I'm with your position 100%. I'm generally in 100% agreement with most feminist goals, but I've learned first hand that many feminists think of all men as the enemy and get quite hot under the collar should a man dare to have an opinion. It seems to me this is just as sexist an act as a man who does the same to a woman. Miz Bohemia has a good thread on this today:

    http://mizbohemia.blogspot.com/2006/03/not-just-vagina-not-only-uterus.html#links

    7:04 PM  
    Blogger EL said...

    Thanks for the link! :)

    10:15 AM  

    Post a Comment

    << Home