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    Tuesday, February 14, 2006

    Happy Valentines Day!

    From Salon:

    Each Valentine's Day, like clockwork, well-meaning lovers hoping to woo their sweeties spend a small fortune on roses and cardboard hearts stuffed with chocolates. Even those who'd usually prefer a slice of pizza to steak tartare and jeans to a suit jacket, somehow find themselves dolled up and sharing a candlelit dinner. For a holiday that supposedly celebrates the excitement and passion of love, hasn't it all become rather stale?

    Valentine's Day isn't just for preppy, thoroughly non-alterna monogamous heterosexuals. If you want to give roses, chocolate, and a red teddy bear, be my guest. If you want to skip the celebrating and make it any day of the year, do it. If you want to protest the capitalist and heterosexist and sexist elements of the way many Americans celebrate, grab your sign and hit the streets outside Hallmark. But My Amusement Park believes in true love (and the power of "reclaiming".) And true love is nothing if not deeply personalized. So we're going to get you in the mood.

    Slate gives you some love poems for the day. May I recommend a few of my favorite love poems by e.e. cummings, Frank O'Hara, and Gertrude Stein.

    If you're staying in, allow me to suggest viewing a sampling of some of the all-time best on screen romantic couples, according to MAP:

    Brian and Justin; Queer as Folk
    Joel and Clementine: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
    Randy and Evie; The Incredibly True Adventures of True Girls in Love
    Isaac and Tracy; Manhattan
    Ryan and Marissa, Sandy and Kirsten, Summer and Seth; The OC
    David and Sofia; Vanilla Sky
    Alvy and Annie; Annie Hall
    Nina and Jamie: Truly, Madly, Deeply
    Nate and Brenda, David and Keith; Six Feet Under
    Ennis and Jack; Brokeback Mountain

    My partner, A, already bought me a cappucino this morning on the way to work. But coffee or tea for the connoisseur has that chocolate feel to it, without being as expected. Also, this book offers recipes chock full of dishes which will rack your biochemistry with love.

    Some songs to crank on the iPod:

    Crimson and Clover: Tommy James and the Shondells OR (queer version) Joan Jett and the Blackhearts
    I'm In: Radney Foster w/ Abra Moore
    I Only Have Eyes for You: The Flamingos
    Save the Last Dance for Me: The Drifters
    You Got Me: The Roots featuring Erykah Badu
    When It Don't Come Easy: Patty Griffin
    I'll Take Care of You: Dixie Chicks
    The Folks Who Live on the Hill: Brad Mehldau Trio
    Your Love: The Butchies
    Mint Car: The Cure
    Lazy Days: Leona Naess
    Simple: kd lang
    All I Want Is You: U2
    A Case of You: Joni Mitchell
    Let Me Touch You For Awhile: Alison Krauss and Union Station
    I Never Loved A Man (The Way I Love You): Aretha Franklin (remember it in Bound!?)
    You Still Believe In Me: The Beach Boys
    Oh Yoko: John Lennon

    ... and many more where those came from!

    HRC has a special Valentine's Day page to check out.

    And think about why you really love your (specific) loved ones. Today, I love A for being a hard-core feminist, an unabashed softie to my often-times-hardass, an argumentative intellectual, a brave advocate, a careful and thoughtful artist, an ideal challenging and supportive friend, and accepting of me in my geeky-as-hell, pop-culture-loving, politically-correct, insecure macho-ness. I love that we don't have to spend too much money, but we can if we have it, we don't have to make the day the apex of the year, but we can if we want it to be. I love that, for me and A, Valentines Day can belong to us, as a couple, not to us, as part of a world of couples.

    Hope you enjoy the day and night, alone, with family or/and friends, or with your partner(s)!

    Entry for the Feminist Valentine Blog Awards


    Blogger Omnipotent Poobah said...


    Odd you should top your tune list with Crimson and Clover. I just came in from the car and it was playing on XM.

    Have a Happy V-Day. My best to you and to A.

    Now if you'll excuse me, I'll peruse a little Gertrude Stein.

    4:46 PM  
    Blogger EL said...

    Enjoy! And Lifting Belly is best shared. :)

    Happy Valentine's Day to you and yours.

    7:20 PM  
    Anonymous Bitch | Lab said...

    Awwww. that is the sweetest post. I feel really gooeey and happy for you and A. :)

    Man, the poob's pink background is getting to me... in a good way.

    11:30 PM  
    Blogger EL said...

    Oh, thanks for the goo, Bitch! :)

    10:08 AM  

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