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    Thursday, December 08, 2005

    The straight guy's guide to Brokeback

    Dave White, gay film critic for Movies.com, comforts all those poor, poor oh-so-hetero and yet somehow cool (yeah, I don't think they're real either) guys who are being forced to see men kiss on film this weekend:

    You are a heterosexual man. And you have no personal beef with gay people. You’re educated and fairly socially liberal and occasionally listen to NPR and you don’t like to see anyone bashed or discriminated against. You’re no homophobe. You’re proud of yourself.

    But your girlfriend/wife/common-law/female or whoever loves that adorable Jake Gyllenhaal has already stated her intentions. When it’s her turn to pick the Saturday night date-movie, you’re seeing “Brokeback Mountain.”

    “But I am a heterosexual man,” you’re thinking, “very, very, very, very straight.” ...

    You kind of have no idea how important it is for you to shut up. But it’s crucial. I was recently at a press screening for another movie and I overheard four guys in the theater lobby talking about “Brokeback.” They were resolute in their refusal to go see it and they couldn’t stop loudly one-upping each other about how they had no interest, were not “curious,” and were, in the words of the loudest guy in the group, “straight as that wall over there.” Oh, the wall with poster for the Big Gay Cowboy Movie on it? That straight wall? Well here’s something that everyone else now knows but that guy: he’s probably gay. Being silent marks you as too cool to care about how other men see you. ...

    They’re tortured and you get to feel sorry for them. Just like in that Tom Hanks movie, these gay guys get kicked around a lot. It’s set in the 1960s and the characters played by Heath and AJ don’t even know they’re gay. They think they’re just regular straight guys who suddenly find themselves all turned on by each other and, honestly, don’t even really understand why they’re awash in yucky, hypnotic love feelings. Actually wait… you know what? Don’t think about that too much. Better if you just forget about the “why” of it all and start rooting for these underdogs. Pretend they’re like Sean Astin in “Rudy.”

    Anne Hathaway, who plays AJ’s wife, gets topless. The End
    I think it’s fair to report this and here’s why: as a gay man, the only reason I even agreed to sit through the really stupid remake of “The Longest Yard” was because one of my friends told me you get to see the wrestler Goldberg in the shower. In one scene. That’s it. I sat through the whole thing for one scene. In that respect, my hetero pals, we are all brothers deep inside — it’s just a different brand of naked flesh that ignites our prurience.


    1. Stop being homophobic- it makes you look like a fag.
    2. Watching gay guys isn't so bad as long as they're still being kicked around like they were in high school.
    3. Even a gay movie is worth it for some tits.
    4. Gay men and straight men are "brothers" in their love of nudity- something we women, straight, gay or otherwise, simply cannot understand.

    Sometimes it seems like a nice idea: gay guys helping straight guys out with all the tiny-ass little petty things they can't do on their own (watch a damn movie, pluck some hairs from between their eyebrows, whatever), but then I start to wonder- do I really want all those guys linking arms around the world?

    Which brings me to another article: In Fashion, Who Really Gets Ahead?.

    At a cocktail party at Chelsea Piers on Sunday night, an annual Toys for Tots charity drive that draws a crowd of mostly gay men, the designer Peter Som wryly observed that there were so many designers, retail executives and publicists present that if the pier collapsed, "there would be no fashion industry tomorrow."

    Two months earlier, Tara Subkoff, the agent provocateur behind the label Imitation of Christ, had remarked during a public forum, with a great deal of irritation, that fashion "is a gay man's profession."

    Ms. Subkoff was annoyed; Mr. Som was amused.

    The difference between their attitudes toward the gay male dominance of the fashion industry, a peculiar and widely acknowledged circumstance, illustrates a growing tension between those who feel they are discriminated against and those who feel somewhat favored by a perception, largely unexamined, that men are better designers than women, and gay men are the best designers of all. ...

    Ms. Subkoff's remarks, made during a panel discussion of "Generation X Fashion" at the New Yorker Festival in late September, landed like an incendiary device in the fashion world - she also accused Anna Wintour, the editor of Vogue, of supporting only "young, gay men." A debate has continued ever since on Seventh Avenue over who is most likely to succeed in fashion and also on whether women, who make up most of the customers for this industry, face institutional barriers that limit their advancement on the creative side.

    Many female designers perceive that their male counterparts have won more industry honors and are featured more prominently in magazines. On television, they note, advice on style and design is almost invariably sought from a vibrantly gay man - witness "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy," the new "Isaac" talk show with Isaac Mizrahi on the Style channel ...

    "Gay men stick together like a band of brothers," Ms. Subkoff said in an interview. "It's more common for a man to bring up a younger assistant" who is male "and be proud of that," she added, "whereas a woman would be threatened" to promote another woman. ...

    Dana Buchman built a business with an estimated $150 million in annual sales over 19 years with the philosophy that she shares the lifestyle of a working mother and career woman with her customers. Yet, Ms. Buchman's success has been little reflected in the news media compared with some designers who have barely started selling clothes.

    "I don't show up in the fashion press a lot," she said. "If you look at who is touted in the fashion press, it is overwhelmingly young gay men."...

    "Men are often better designers for women than other women," said Tom Ford, the former creative director of Gucci and Yves Saint Laurent, who more than anyone in the past decade built a brand on his own persona, that of a man whose sensual appeal is to both men and women. Whereas Bill Blass, Valentino and Oscar de la Renta founded their empires on the strength of a nonthreatening, nonsexual charisma, Mr. Ford aggressively promoted his sexually charged designs. "Of course there are many more gay male designers," Mr. Ford said. "I think we are more objective. We don't come with the baggage of hating certain parts of our bodies."

    Some designers embrace an extreme version of this position. Michael Vollbracht, the current designer of Bill Blass, said he believes that gay men are demonstrably superior at design, their aesthetic formed by a perception of a woman as an idealized fantasy. "I come from a time when gay men dressed women," Mr. Vollbracht said. "We didn't bed them. Or at least I didn't. I am someone who is really pro-homosexual. I am an elitist. I am better than straight people. Women are confused about who they want to be. I believe that male designers have the fantasy level that women do not." ...

    "We can't explain the gender gap away by differences in qualifications, ambitions or success strategies," said Jeanine Prime, the author of the study. "A lot of it still has to do with the perception that women don't have the right leadership stuff. There are a lot of barriers that men just don't face." Catalyst's survey of women in senior management positions showed that those women have the same ambitions as men.

    The large number of visible gay men in fashion, say many in the industry, traces to the fact that Seventh Avenue has seemed a less homophobic career choice than, say, law enforcement or Wall Street. And the prominence of gay men enjoying fame and prosperity draws others into the field.

    Paradoxically, at the grass roots many more women seek entry to the industry than men. Fewer than 7 percent of students in the fashion department at the Parsons the New School for Design in New York are men, said Timothy Gunn, the department chairman. That figure that has been declining for a decade. At the Fashion Institute of Technology, the city's other leading fashion college, the student body is 85 percent women.

    Fashion, unlike finance or politics, has always included some women at the top. But their visibility has not increased incrementally over the decades like other professions. In the 1920's and 30's, there were many female designers - Alix Grès, Elsa Schiaparelli and Chanel - but after World War II, the big names were male - Bill Blass, Yves Saint Laurent and Pierre Cardin. Ms. Steele of F.I.T. said the change could be attributed to the evolving role of women in society, from one of strength and independence before the war to the postwar ideal of a feminine mystique.

    Likewise, the impression that gay men are more likely to succeed in fashion today, she said, is a reflection of contemporary attitudes and stereotypes.

    "There are all of these unexamined and frankly invalid ideas that still seem to be bandied about," Ms. Steele said. "I think there are more likely cultural and sociopolitical explanations. But the perception that all good designers are men and that all male designers are gay, which Rudi Gernreich said 30 years ago, all gets down to the totally unprovable to the grossly homophobic."

    Findings: gay men are still men, even if kinda not.

    I am sort of disturbed by the fact that sentences like this appear:
    Since 1986 its annual Perry Ellis awards for young talent have been given to 8 women and 29 men (20 of them openly gay).

    Why are we pointing out who's out? This can't just be sexism, just like in every other business in the world, it has to be these catty gay guys who can't share the spotlight.

    Not that I'm saying it's impossible that that's true. Nor do I dispute the idea of a prominent woman like Anna Wintour favoring gay men, specifically, as opposed to heterosexual men or women of any sexual orientation. Because there are a lot of straight gals who collect gay men like keychains and use them so they don't have to deal with their jealousy of other women, but can still check out men and have someone to go shopping with. Because the gays like to shop.

    Anyway, why are we tempering the sexism here with this borderline-anti-gay stuff? Gay guys may stick together- guys usually do.


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